During the month of March, honored guest danyelle beal joined us as a guest on Tipsy Unicorns to share her story and inspiration with our crew. We are excited to share the following gems gathered from this episode. Check out her reading recommendations, listen to her music selections on our growing playlist, and then get ready to unpack this gift of an episode!
Need to examine and dissect overt and covert behavior.
Stop going to your privileged neighborhoods and brush other people’s problems off. We are all socially responsible for each other… it’s not us versus them… it’s humanity! This isn’t politics, it’s a human issue. People are dying unnecessarily and we all need to care about it!
There is a connection here to the white dominant narrative - overly empathic women who feel and respond emotionally to everything - this response is suppressed through punishment.
Music is the one thing in her childhood memories that bring her joy. Every happy memory is associated with music which she realized because of being asked to share with us.
She shared a memory associated with punishment. Rock Steady - loved this song, was compelled to dance, was laughed at, punished, and felt as this was a reflection of her not being Black-enough.
How to take our collective experiences of oppression and turn them into liberation?
She's finally in a place where she can articulate her experiences. For so long she has not felt she had a voice and music has been a method for her to learn how to use it. Opportunities like being on this podcast give her a chance to reflect and articulate these things. She shared she has gone through most of her life thinking there was something wrong with her and having to code-switch.
When she started in this field she was so full of shame. She learned from a very early age to put on a mask and present herself in such a way that was digestible for other people. She has been exhausted for 23 years. She didn’t realize that part of her exhaustion was overcompensating.
She was diagnosed in college with a cognitive processing disorder. When she was at risk of not passing a class an instructor provided resources for her to get testing. This affected how she was showing up but she still had to over-compensate.
Having to code switch contributed to her burnout. This showed up everywhere and impacted every aspect of her life - marriage, motherhood, profession.
As she's starting to find her voice and share her story, she is learning to show up unapologetically. When she shows up in a deep authentic connection, that is where the good stuff happens.
Listening is a huge part of collective liberation. We need to be able to listen to every perspective. There is something to learn and there is wisdom to be gained. She believes that hurt people hurt people. She sees this all the time. She wants to offer grace. This is the heart work. This is so important to her because she used to be angry. People did not understand that she was broken. Once she understood that about herself, she could see those patterns in others.
Three tips for emerging activists:
Gifts of Generative Gratitude:
A gigantic THANK YOU!!! to danyelle for accepting the invitation to be our guest this month. Please listen to and share this episode, give a gift of gratitude, and join us Saturdays 10AM Alaska (11PST/2EST) for Radical Action Circle where we will be sharing her wisdom and centering her perspective as we engage in our work as emerging activists and self-proclaimed change catalysts.